Cheating Wives
Len Snow

Do wives cheat on their husbands? You better believe it and the number that do is probably much higher than you might think. Some studies suggest that the number of married women who have an affair at some point could be as high as 60% but the average seems to be around 35% and still climbing. While men often go looking for an affair, for women affairs seem to ‘happen’, usually during a period when their marriage or relationship is under stress. A man goes looking for an affair for excitement and the thrill factor while the typical woman falls into a relationship because she is vulnerable and finds emotional support that she may not be getting from her husband.

Obviously there are some women who do go looking for an affair simply for the thrill factor but they are in the minority. That means that it is possible to reduce the risk of your wife straying into the arms of another guy so let’s look at some of the reasons women wander and things you can do to prevent it. Quite a few guys come to me after they have ended their marriage because they have found that their wife was cheating and it seems that the most common scenario is where the marriage has simply become too comfortable. Everything seems fine, she doesn’t complain if you spend all your time in front of the television and she doesn’t give you a hard time when you go out with the boys. You mightn’t be having sex all that often but no one is complaining and everything is coasting along. While many women have no problems there are a lot who feel that this sort of relationship indicates that their husband has lost interest in them and they no longer have their man’s emotional support. That emotional support is so very important and a girl will go looking for it if she isn’t getting it at home.

To avoid this sort of problem spend time with your partner, talk to her, encourage her to share her day with you, be her friend and not just a guy with whom she shares a house. Make her the most important person in your life and make sure she understands that and finally have sex when you’re awake, not just at the end of the day when it’s just a quick fumble before you fall asleep. Sex is a very important part of a relationship but some guys seem to make it the focal point and that can be a serious mistake. Wild sex in all its variations night after night does not keep your partner from straying. Certainly she will enjoy it but a woman needs something more than an incredible orgasm every 24 hours and even wild sex will not keep her from wandering. If your partner is suggesting to you that there are nights when she would just like to snuggle up with you or spend the evening talking then you are hearing some of the warning signs.

As I said earlier, men often look for affairs for the thrill and the passion while most women fall into affairs because they are vulnerable. She may well feel that the only reason you keep her cumming every night is because you want to get your rocks off and not because you want to spend time with her. A woman needs to be courted every single day, she needs to be convinced that her partner loves and cares for her and is attracted to her and that she means more to him than being just a convenient sex object. Girls who don’t get this sort of reassurance will find it elsewhere no matter how good the sex may be. Some guys can’t cope when their wives go back to college or return to the workforce. Suddenly they feel that every predatory male will be sniffing around their lady and they feel that their relationship is in danger. The ironic thing here is that this is probably the least dangerous time in a relationship. The bored wife at home is far more likely to stray than the eager girl who is far more interested in establishing a career than falling into an affair.

The problem here is that guys in this situation often behave like jealous idiots and do far more damage to their relationships than they realize. It is far better to talk to your partner about your concerns than to hide them and let them fester until they explode and ruin everything. By talking calmly and quietly to your partner about your concerns you show her that you really care about her and believe me, you will help her see how you really feel about her and you will win more brownie points than you ever thought possible.

Every marriage moves into the doldrums at times - even mine does occasionally - and it is usually the woman who notices it first. Work may be taking up a big part of the day for both of you leaving little time for that special time with each other or you may have achieved your joint goals and are drifting aimlessly with no new targets to aim for. Maybe you’ve begun flirting with some cute babe at work or your partner is finding life at home to be boring. Whatever the situation this is a serious point in your relationship and you need to be aware of the danger signs when they arise. Unfortunately by the time most men wake up to what is happening it could be too late. Turn the danger signs into positives by focusing on them. Take your lady out to dinner or a show, do something special with her that you haven’t done for a while, show her that you want to keep on building your relationship. Set new joint goals with her that both of you can aim for and start working towards them. Step back from that babe at work, think of the messy divorce or separation, the alimony, the hassles of setting up life with someone new and the fact that the beautiful lady you already have is very special to you.

Women do stray, there is no doubt of that but most situations can be avoided if you are prepared to work hard to prevent them. The hard work is always worth it because a loving partnership can face the problems of the world far more easily than can one lonely individual.