Single's Bars
Wayne Ross

Singles Bars are the most difficult place to meet women and nearly 97% of men who try to meet girls in bars fail to do so. Do you know why? It's because they approach them wrong. Never, and I mean never, go up to a girl and ask to buy her a drink. In fact, never buy a girl a drink unless you are on a date with her. This makes a girl feel obligated to you and most of them will only use you to buy them drinks all night. Most men approach women in a bar on a sexual level and that is why they fail. Approach them on a friendly level and you will have a much better chance of getting to know them. You must sell yourself to women and if they become your friend they will see you are a nice guy and may become more than a friend. This is so important.

In a singles bar if you want to meet women, go up to them in a non sexual, non physical way. Go up to them and just say "Hi". That's all. I met a beautiful girl named Lisa in a singles bar and here is how I did it. I was at the Holiday Inn one night and I saw this beautiful girl sitting at a table with a girlfriend. She had long black hair and was fairly young. I knew the worst thing to do was ask her to dance, because I saw her turn down a bunch of guys.

Now singles dances are different than singles bars. At the singles dances, women go to dance. In a bar you will get turned down ten times more than at a singles dance. I'd rather go to a singles dance, but a lot of guys still go to the bars so I want to tell them how to succeed.

I go to singles bars about once a month just to see how I can meet women there. Anyway, back to Lisa. I saw her sitting at a table and was deciding how to meet her. I just decided to go over and say hi. I went over to the table:

"Hi", I said to both of them.

"Hi", they replied back.

"Do you girls like the band?"

"Yes", they both said.

"My name's Wayne, what are your names?"

"My name's Lisa and this is Joyce."

"Nice to meet you."

"Sometimes it's hard to talk because the band is so loud. I like the music and love to dance, but the dance floor is so small in here."

"Yes it is." said Lisa.

Lisa did most of the talking and she was the one I was interested in but I was friendly with both of them. I told them it was nice meeting them and left. Very important, I did not make them feel threatened by making them think I was going to stick like glue to them all night. A lot of guys make their mistake by talking to a girl and if she answers, he tries to hog her time. I remarked I like to dance, but I did not ask her to dance at this time because I wanted to give her some time to think.

I saw Lisa and Joyce a couple more times that night and I was friendly to them each time, but I still did not hog their time. I figured I would run into them again. I did run into them again, the following week, and this time Lisa was real friendly. She was all smiles when she saw me and treated me like and old friend. I finally danced with her and we had a very good time. I laughed and joked and treated her like a good friend.

She said she was very comfortable with me. I have not asked her out yet, but whenever I see her we have a good time dancing and a lot of guys envy me because I'm dancing with such a beautiful girl. You can do the same. The same thing happened to me with another girl named Jackie. She turned me down three different times when I asked her to dance but I did not make the mistake a lot of guys make. I did not put her down and I did not hold it against her because she did not dance with me.

What I did do was talk to her a few minutes each time I saw her. We became friends. After a couple months of running into her at the same bar she asked me why I never asked her to dance. I told her she turned me down three times. She didn't remember but we did dance and I did take her out a few times.

The lesson here is to talk to as many women as you can as friends. Many of them will turn out to be more than friends, mark my words. If you remember nothing else, just remember that women are human beings, not sex objects. Treat them as such, and you will have success beyond your wildest dreams.